I saw an incredible documentary this weekend...Not As I Pictured by John Kaplan. You can see more about it here. John is a Pulitzer Prize winning photographer who is also a lymphoma survivor. He documented his cancer journey in this film. There is a lot that I loved about the film, but one thing in particular reminded me a lot of my own life. The film began with pivotal points in his adult life: falling in love, a wedding, the adoption of a child, the birth of a second child. On the screen appeared 3 pictures (one of each event) and then the words "As I Pictured." As the pictures faded, they were replaced with NOT...and the now dark screen read "NOT As I Pictured."
How many of our lives HAVE turned out as we pictured they would? I would venture to guess that very few people would fall into that category. Not everyone's life involves a trauma but most people don't have storybook "just as I pictured" lives. Those of us who are single parents often did not picture our lives this way. We probably had storybook images of mom and dad in love, loving and raising children and then growing old together. Even though we probably all have lists of what we would like to change, I expect that most of us would not trade our single parenthood for anything - just because of the wonderful joy brought into our lives by our children. I know it is kind of cliche. But for me it is worth remembering.