The current post at Since My Divorce is about how I handled my divorce proceedings. I believe very strongly in taking the high road and not doing things that were contrary to my character. You can read the post here.
It made me think of a funny little story I thought I would share. I was really angry with my husband. However, I tended to intellectualize my anger and dealt with it within the complex web of other emotions I was feeling. As Mandy describes, I purposefully took the high road in my divorce. Part of this is who I am. I did not want to sink to the level that my husband was acting on. I also did not want to do anything that I would regret in the future. I wanted to handle an impossible tragic situation with as much grace as possible so that my son would see that example.
I never really regretted these actions, but sometimes I would imagine what it would have been like to dump all his clothes and personal stuff on our front lawn, so when he arrived to pick up his stuff it would be a big embarrassing mess. I never really wanted to do this, but I did fantasize about it.