Wednesday, August 11, 2010


Today, my son and I leave for a three day vacation on a Lake Erie island.  This place was very special to me during my courtship and marriage to my husband.  It holds a lot of memories of our life and our love.  It holds no bad memories of his betrayal.

Today, my son and I will travel the same waters; walk on the same shoreline; sit on the same beach.  We will talk about forgiveness, about moving forward from painful things in our past.  We will light a candle in his memory.  We will return a stone to the island, that I had picked up on the beach the first time I was there.  We will choose another stone to take home to represent the beginning of new memories.

Today, I will take my engagement ring and wedding band and cleanse it in the soft waters of the lake.  I hope to change how I look at this beautiful diamond - no longer as a representation of our marriage, but as a symbol of the amazing child that we were blessed with and I have the honor of raising, nurturing and loving every day.

Today, there will be forgiveness, healing and moving forward.  Another step on my everyday journey.
"Forgiving does not erase the bitter past.  A healed memory is not a deleted memory.  Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember.  We change the memory of the past into a hope for our future. (Lewis B. Smedes)


  1. What an amazing idea! I think it is beautiful and very symbolic!! Try to have some fun, too!!

  2. oh there will be LOTS of fun...that is why we are going to do this the first night. Then onto the beach, pool, biking around the island, exploring, playing games, eating out and mini golf!!!!

  3. I hope you have a wonderful time.

  4. I LOVE the replacing the rock idea. Good luck to you both. Let the healing begin!

  5. Sounds like it will be a very therapeutic trip, good to talk about all those things with your son. I am convinced that you sharing all this with your son will help enormously to accept his father's history.

    You are a remarkable woman and I think your diamond also symbolizes your journey, everything you've experienced to make you the special person you are. Have you thought about taking your wedding band and engagement ring and having them made in a new ring? A custom design that symbolizes you.