Sunday, July 25, 2010
But what is family time when you have a family of two? My family is me and my seven year old son. After my divorce I went through a period of time when I questioned whether or not we were still a family. I realized that just because we don't fit into the traditional mold does not mean we are any less of a family. All families are different. But, back to the question of family time.
All of our time as a family is spent together - me and my kiddo. There are no other immediate family members to draw into the circle. Sometimes that is hard. Sometimes it is nice. But I do miss being able to have a conversation over dinner that involves more than two people. I miss the dynamics of a group rather than a duo.
When we are at home, it is often just the two of us. This does get switched up a bit now that he has friends over more often - for play or sleepovers. When it is the two of us, sometimes we do things together, but more often it seems we are doing parallel things. He might be playing nintendo or reading while I might be on the computer or cleaning. We do both enjoy time to ourselves but I also want to have that QUALITY family time. That is truly the struggle. I have the quantity of time, but do I have the quality?
I am trying to find out more about how other single moms of only children manage this issue. Do other people have different ways of looking at it? Do others even think about it like I do? So far I have not found much about it in the blogosphere but I am still looking.