Friday, June 18, 2010

telling my story

Our lives are made up of stories.  Little ones.  Big ones.  Sad ones.  Happy ones.  Consuming ones.  I believe that my stories are a part of who I am but I struggle with not letting them define me.  I have wanted to tell one of my stories on my blog for a long time:  the story of how I became a single mom.  I wondered WHY I continually felt the need to tell that story...was it for the right reasons or the wrong reasons.  Did I think telling my story would help me or others or did I just want some kind of attention.  I also struggle because there are parts of my story that embarrass me and make me feel ashamed.  But there are also parts that make me proud and make me feel strong.

One thing I have never found is someone who shares a similar story.  But then I wonder if there are others out there, who are ashamed of their story also, just looking for someone else to relate to, like I have been.

I stumbled across a blog (see Only Parent Chronicles on my blog list) of a woman who describes herself as an only mom.  Her story is one of the closest to mine I have found.  On her blog she tells her story - in five parts.  I read it and found it to be helpful.  So I started rethinking telling my own story - in pieces.  I think I might.


  1. It's a hard thing to do. It took me a lot of editing and a lot of tears to decide what exactly to put out there for the world to see. Parts of me used to be embarrassed amd ashamed that I allowed myself to be in that situation. Now I know that all of those things, the good and the bad, make me the woman and the mom I am today. I'm far from perfect, but most days I like me.

    Obviously, there are parts of my story I didn't write about. I put down just enough for people to understand who I am today. I am so glad it spoke to you. Whatever you decide to do, do it for you and only do as much as you're comfortable with. I promise it will speak to someone and it will help them with their healing.

  2. Deb...

    No matter your final decision...know that you are not alone. Some of the pieces of your story that I know, are shared with others... There may be different details, different decisions, and different outcomes - but I can think of at least two other people who would identify with you in SO many ways!

    Just my 2 cents (and it may not even be worth that!)


  3. I recommend it because I found that it helps me. Every now and then, I do look back and seeing how far I've come really does help me to understand that the nature of everything is fluid and constantly changing. There actually is comfort in that for me.

  4. I have been writing my childhood story lately. It is very theraputic. Do it for you, you will feel better.

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